I publish a friend’s writings on Promised Seed Ministries website, and she recently sent me one of her ’blurbs’ titled "The Dangers of a Weight Not Borne." She wrote, "I read about the emotional and physical associations that exist in certain body parts. For instance, there is an association between communication and the throat, neck, jaw, gums, and teeth." Charissa goes on to talk about her communication problem, and this made me realize that I was suffering from what I consider a HUGE communication problem. (See Charissa Schalk at: www.promiseed.com)
Her writing had a profound effect on me. I have shared with you that I am continuing my education and am now a senior at Sonoma State University. One of my biggest problems is that I cannot communicate my subject with any real satisfaction; I feel like both the verbal, and the written word, give me difficulty. Charissa goes on to say, "My point, though, is that I am convinced that my consciousness begins shutting down in "dangerous" situations, so that I wouldn’t have to work to keep my mouth shut. Safer that way. Now it shuts down, even when there is no legitimate danger." She admonishes that often relationships cannot bear the weight of honesty, and one should carefully consider "remaining in a relationship that can’t bear your weight." This is all good, BUT... how do I get out of a relationship with myself ?????
I realized that I put myself down all the time! A voice inside my head berates me without cessation: I’m too fat; I'm stupid; I can’t do well; I'm ugly; my hair is too thin; I'm not a good daughter; I'm not a good sister; I can’t dance; I can’t communicate; this kind of thinking goes on continually! This came to me in a flash when I realized that my neck hurts me all the time, I go to bed with it hurting, and I awake with it hurting. I’ve notice that I walk with my shoulders pushed up and my head squished down. I was afraid I was going to need a chiropractic appointment at the very least, and who knows, but that I might have disk degeneration? BUT . . . the moment I thought I must stop that negative voice inside my head the pain in my neck ceased!
Psa. 50:23 tells me "Whoso offers praise glorifies me: and to him that orders his conversation aright will I shew the salvation of God" and this morning I received physical salvation! It is wonderful to go through the day without neck pain. When the pain does try to return, I check my thinking, and I immediately stop the negative voice that has a way of creeping back in. It is not necessary for me to be continually on guard, because that dull ache in my neck returns whenever I give in to the old habit.
We are told, "That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts; And be renewed in the spirit of your mind. That you put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness." We are to put away lying, and we are to speak the truth with our neighbors: after all, we are members one of another. We can get angry, and not sin, although we should especially not let the sun go down upon our anger. The scripture goes on to say it well that we should let no corrupt communication proceed out of our mouth, but that which is good we should use to edifying, that it may minister grace to the hearers. We should not grieve the holy Spirit of God, whereby we are sealed unto the day of redemption. Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamor, and evil speaking, be put away, with all malice. We should be kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven us. This is paraphrased from Ephesians 4. Truly, our lives will be better all the way around when we understand the value of these verses, but especially when we realize that it all starts at home, inside of us. We need to learn to be kind and tenderhearted toward ourselves. We cannot say we love our neighbors, if we do not love ourselves. See James 2:8, there is a price to pay when we judge (ourselves or others). Loving one’s self is important for if we judge others harshly, we will have no mercy (Jas 2:13).
I, for one, have not had any mercy toward myself for a very long time, and it is so wonderful to finally silence those nagging voices and find Gods perfect love! Let’s not stop only the voices of self-doubt in our thinking, but also the voices that point out the faults of others. Even the little things like, "her hair is messed up; her clothes are not perfect; his eyebrow is too long." . . . Etc . Shut down ANY negative thought that comes to mind and watch the healing come forth.
In His Everlasting Love - Pamla
Who knows what the Lord plans? Remember the old saying, if a tree falls in the rain forest and nobody is there to hear it, does it affect us? True, a little less carbon dioxide is converted to oxygen, perhaps that will affect someone at the precise time they are in limbo. But is there a domino effect? Sir Thomas Moore’s famous phrase: "no man is an island," might apply. The sociological premise of interaction, that every action affects and creates new actions is valid. One person’s tragedy might be a factor in making someone else stronger, wiser, or tougher? For instance, my parent’s alcoholism might account for my aversion to alcohol. The Lord’s game-plans are far more intricate than we can comprehend. I believe one might need to look at things over a long period of time, extrapolating interactions, more like God does. Instead, we tend to look at things in the short term. Nobody can ever figure out why he takes so many of our best and purest far too young. Is he rewarding them? Is the Lord giving us grace, is he just taking us to his bosom before we human beings feel we are ready?
Life, we know, is a cycle, we transition from birth to death, with our atoms returning to the ecosystem after we no longer need them. Perhaps death is a reward, after all, heaven awaits. That is how I prefer to think of it. Not that I am in a hurry, but death does not scare me. I have been in so many situations where God could have taken me and declined. I feel blessed that he has seen fit to give me such a long life. That is one reason why I enjoy teaching, as a payback for father’s continued blessing. Life should be a blessing, but I have learned that it is what I make it. My own attitude infects my life, if I am negative and down, my life is less enjoyable. My present attitude has my life fulfilled and joyous.
Since I gave my soul to The Father for his grace, my life has been stress free and a daily blessing. Maybe the Lord is testing us by negative health issues, making us more adaptable and resilient. In many ways, I feel mentally stronger for all the negative issues in my life. My many health problems have given me a perspective and perhaps compassion that I might have not had if I was in perfect health. Human interactions have created an entire branch of sociology, which will never be an exact science due the domino effect. Interactions are continuous, the possibilities are endless, only the father has the capacity to guide and understand them. God has taught me to just trust in him and "do not sweat the small stuff."
“A Day in Our Lives"
Starring - Promised Seed Ministries
My Mom still wrestles with vertigo and fear; we have a difficult time getting her out of bed these days. Not that she can’t get up, but she only wants to sleep. My Dad has mostly recovered from the stroke he suffered last year; he is 82 and still taking care of Mom. Terrie spent the week in the hospital. They finally decided she has an infection in her small intestine, and they are giving her antibiotics. My brother, Bobby, had a pace maker installed to get his drum to the correct beat. He is starting to feel better. David had his gall bladder removed. Opened up the old fashioned way, he has recovered with the removal of 26 staples. I am in good health and will graduate with a B.A. spring 2014. I have received 4 A’s, 4 A-, and 3 B’s in my university career as of this writing. I was on the President’s list when I graduated from junior college, so it kind of stings that I am not still a straight A student. Father is teaching me humility.
When evil, (ill health, problems, crisis) strike, we know we can trust God. We know HE is faithful and worth all our praise and trust, regardless of what trials we are suffering. Even with all the ups and downs, the rewards are numerous. We are coming into a place where none of these things bother us any longer. There is a place in Christ where the waters are calm, the food is plentiful and peace abounds. It is not always easy to keep our thinking set in Christ where there is rest, but it is the only place where life is abundant and worth living
We pray that hope abounds in your heart today. Keep in mind that you are shedding seeds of hope every where you step, with every word you utter. Pray those seeds sprout, grow into a mighty plant and sheds more seeds, it is this way that our would will recoup and we will see the Kingdom of God grow
We do thank each and everyone for continued prayer and support of this ministry. Your prayerful support enables us to continue sharing the Good News of the Happy God, who is Savior of all and condemner of none. Terrie, Dave and I love and pray the Lord’s blessings continue to pour forth upon each of you, beyond all you could ask or think. (Eph. 3:20). You’re also welcome to add someone else if you think they would enjoy our materials.